Our attitudes have a direct effect on how we experience our reality. Whether you see the cup as half empty or half full doesn’t really matter; what matters is what you make that mean. Does “half empty” mean there’s plenty of room for more, or that you’re getting low? Does “half full” mean that your cup isn’t full enough, or that you still have lots left in your cup? It’s the meaning we give the facts of our lives that affects our reality of it and it’s our attitude that triggers the meaning we end up assigning these facts. If you want to co-create your reality, change the meaning you’re giving it by altering your attitude!
Next time you want to co-create your reality, use one of these attitude lifters!
1. This too shall pass. Whatever is going on now, will soon be in the past.
2. Shift your focus. There is much going on in any moment that you could be focusing on. Look around you; what can you focus on that will result in a better feeling? The sky, a flower, animals playing, a picture or someone smiling.
3. If you are in an argument and the other person is showing you a part of them that you don’t like, remember that is only one part of them. They have many other parts to them, many of which you likely enjoy, and admire. If you’re dealing with a stranger, then envision them in a tender moment, as a child or receiving a gift. We are all multi-facetted and have many moments – good and bad. The more you focus on the good in a person, the more you’ll experience that part of them.
4. It’s not about you. How a person responds to you usually has to do with them and how they are interpreting the situation. It is rarely personal. Remember that and it will help you disassociation from “their stuff”.
5. It’s all about you. How you respond is usually about you and how you are interpreting the situation. Open yourself up to seeing other perspectives and possibilities. Ask clarifying questions; you may be “off the mark” with your current perspective! Be responsible for the perspective you choose.
6. Stick to the “facts” and drop the story. Adding meaning to events and situations that make you feel bad is a choice, one you don’t have to make! Stick to the facts! If you insist on fabricating a story out of it, make it an inspiring one!
7. A great reality checker in any situation is to ask yourself, “Will this matter 10 or 15 years from now?” When the answer is no, notice how the emotions calm a bit. If the answer happens to be yes, then ask yourself “What can I do about it now?”
8. SMILE! Every chance you get, SMILE. Make sure to smile in a mirror at least 5 times a day to experience the impact of your smile. Smiles are built-in manual “attitude lifters” that don’t cost a thing – and on the receiving end are priceless!
Our attitude directly affects our health and impacts the quality of our lives! Read this article on the correlation between “optimism” and “longevity”.